Leading Yourself Through Relationships

Danny Mequet – Small Groups Pastor  – dmequet@churchoftheking.com

Leaders must accomplish things through, with and for people, and that can happen only with the ability to build relationships. (Orrin Woodward, Launching a Leadership Revolution)

The most valuable resource leaders possess is our influence, and influence grows when we understand the importance of valuing people. “We love because He first loved us” (1 John 4:19). God gives us an excellent example of value. If you put others first, you will be given influence in their lives.

The key to communicating the value of relationships is to first build relationships in your life. To have thriving relationships constantly add value to others. We add value to others when we…

1) PRAY

• When you pray for those you lead, you grow in your desire to serve them and lead them in their God-given potential.
• Prayer gets God involved in your relationships, which will increase your ability to lead.

2) SERVE

• What role are you playing in helping others find and fulfill their God-given purpose?
• Are you serving others so they will follow you, or are you serving from a passion to see God’s dream fulfilled in their life?

Jesus’ master principle: True greatness, true leadership, is found in giving yourself in service to others, not in coaxing or inducing others to serve you. (J. Oswald Sanders, Spiritual Leadership)

3) LOVE

• Born out of God’s love, our love for others grows. As it grows our desire to serve others multiplies out of that love.

Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. (1 John 4:8)

Your ability to develop genuine relationships directly impacts your circle of influence.

Points to ponder…

• Is my circle of influence increasing due to my genuine relationships?
• What three things can I do to develop my relationships?
• What can I do to add value to my relationships?

Prayer point…

Ask God to provide insight so you can continue growing in your relationships and expand influence.

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